The topic of sexual attraction is complicated. Sexual feelings frequently have their roots in the depths of the individual’s brain. In our opinion, there is no one “one-size-fits-all” theory that can account for them, and they are best explained in terms of developmental psychology and character development.
When two people of the same sex or gender engage in sexual activity, that conduct is referred to as homosexuality.
The acceptance, toleration, punishment, and outright prohibition of homosexual behavior have varied over time and across cultural boundaries. Christians typically view homosexual behavior as sinful and shouldn’t be practiced.
What Is Homosexuality?
Homosexuality is a sexual preference that is defined as “an enduring pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attractions” to individuals who are also of the same sex. It “also refers to a person’s sense of identity based on those attractions, related behaviors, and involvement in a community of individuals who share those attractions,” according to the definition.
Homosexuality, or having a sexual interest in or attraction to one’s sex, female homosexuality is usually referred to as lesbianism. At the same time, the word “gay” is sometimes used as a synonym for “homosexual.”
Addiction to Homosexuality
Most people immediately think of drug and alcohol addiction when the word “addiction” is used. Contrary to popular belief, many gays ultimately battle both sexual addiction and discontentment with their sexuality. Very few people will associate homosexuality with addiction.
However, there is a ton of research showing that homosexuality is an obsessive-compulsive-addictive (OCA) disorder that can be treated effectively.
Contrarily, there is a wealth of research showing that homosexuality is an obsessive-compulsive-addictive (OCA) condition and that it is treatable with programs that address the underlying emotional and spiritual issues that give rise to OCA behaviors.
Things to Do to be Free From Homosexuality
You need to cleanse your system of homosexuality because it is a sin. The desire to alter behavior must be sincere; not everyone wants to be treated.
- Avoid engaging in discussions or going to places where you are connecting deeply and sharing intimate details with just one other person.
It is preferable to establish good interactions amongst people of the same gender in groups.
Exclusive, one-on-one relationships can result in emotional dependence. (Emotional dependency is a type of relationship idolatry when someone feels an intense, I-can’t-live-without-you connection with another.) When you and your accountability partner meet for accountability, you should do so in a public setting (i.e., restaurant, coffee shop, etc.).
This does not imply that you can never be by yourself with someone. But we’ve discovered that by including that third person in these close, accountable connections, you may avoid many of the traps that can occur.
- Recognize that it won’t be simple.
Change that goes against our established comfort zone is uncomfortable and difficult. You are altering a pattern of thoughts and deeds that have comprised your interpersonal interactions for your whole life, not just one single habit.
To succeed, you must actively use your will to make decisions intended to glorify God, exercise self-control, and collaborate with God to create new, healthy habits of thinking and believing.
- Accept the fact that you will need to cut your ties to the LGBT lifestyle.
Pictures, memories, and everything else that makes you think back on your past opens the door to sexual and emotional slavery. Recovering entails getting rid of anything and everything that sets off your longings or supports them.
- Pursue the right motivation.
It won’t happen if you try to make your family happy, save your marriage, or stop hurting.
The only thing that will keep you motivated during same-sex attraction (SSA) rehabilitation is a total abandonment of the yearning desire to have a constant, tremendously close relationship with God. It’s the reason you yearn for meaningful connections so desperately, and it’s worth making the effort to pursue them no matter how trying or painful they may be.
- Keep your sexuality pure.
This entails putting your faith in God to give you the willpower to refrain from physical outbursts, sexual fantasies, pornography, and masturbation.
Many people who wish to be gay-free also have sex or masturbation addictions. Like with any addiction, there are withdrawal symptoms. Instead of turning to your old destructive habits, let the pain of not self-medicating with sexual sin drive you.
You can’t hear from God as long as you are making concessions.
- Develop self-control.
Every day, do something that makes you uncomfortable. Recovery requires learning to be Christ-centered and self-denying because our emotional mindset is very self-centered and self-indulgent.